This article was geared toward the person who has ever woken up one day and felt like he or she was with the wrong person. The article gave many ideas on what this feeling means and how to overcome it. Here are some points I found worth passing along:
The moment you are in a relationship and decide you may be with the wrong person is the first real day of the relationship. Before this point, relationships usually go well. Even if there are arguments, they are probably resolved, because you are still at that point where you could see a future with this person. The author says that when you suddenly think you have made a mistake is when you have to start working in the relationship. When you start working at the relationship is a preview to how it will be when you are married one day.
Unreasonable expectations can cause a relationship to fail. This may seem like a no-brainer, but it is indeed true. According to the article, women tend to hold higher expectations once in a relationship, thus why women initiate 2/3 of all divorces. To me, divorce is when one or both people give up on trying in a marriage. Women, however, tend to initiate these, because they expect the man they married to be their knight in shining armor 'til death do us part. You may understand that your significant other likes hiking and gory movies and you have accepted that. However, when you learn more about them and realize their love for hiking means you have to make a sacrifice to go hiking every so often, some tend to give up, thinking that is not acceptable. In reality, the good comes with the bad. God created us to be imperfect, unlike Him, so we cannot expect perfection.
Most times, assuming you are with the wrong person actually means you are not being the right wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend. Like in the previous example, your boyfriend may love hiking, and one day, decides to invite you with him on a 13 mile hike. Because you have never hiked a day in your life and you don't care for the outdoors, you say no. However, you are the one who decides he is the wrong person, when, in reality, you refused to compromise and participate in something he enjoys instead. Relationships always require work from both people.
The takeaway from feeling like you are with the wrong person is that you need to examine the entire situation. Are you actually the one at fault? Do you have overly high expectations of the person you are with? Did you expect marriage to be easier than it actually is?
Though I am clearly not married, I hope to counsel married couples one day. I found this interesting, whether self-explanatory for some or not, because I know many people can relate to feelings of doubt. Times like this are when you must refer to the Word of God and rely on His teachings to get you through a tough point in a marriage.
"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." - Matthew 19:6
We are to get through the rough times, as well as the easy times. If marriage were easy, there wouldn't be pre-marriage counseling, or vows, or entire professions devoted to counseling marriages. If ever you struggle, just remember that God will take care of it.
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